Our author is going through the menopause – and he thinks it’s a good thing.
I have now entered that phase. During the menopause. A topic about which, in my opinion, a lot has been written but little said. Physical change is quite simple. The one-room apartment of the female body is cleared and is no longer shared. Unfortunately, with very slow-working specialists who need years for this action. Menopause is a confusing term. Finally, the stop button is pressed in place of the pause button. Only slow workers take a break.
Something is changing there
But what happens mentally and emotionally in a woman’s fifties, especially a mother’s life? The psychological change that is undoubtedly taking place is as complex and varied as the physical change. Exactly, something is changing there … also in the head!
The menopause has a bad reputation and is rarely reported positively. This time is associated with a hormonal roller coaster ride with all sorts of side effects such as insomnia, depression, mood swings, apathy, weight gain, hot flashes, sweating, hair loss … a real bogey!
Well, I find this stadium a great time to arrive. With myself. When my daughters find and search for themselves, I know exactly who I am, what I can do, where are my strengths and weaknesses. I feel grounded and stable and experience an unprecedented inner peace towards life. I feel safe and at peace with my “I”. Not only do I appreciate my loved ones, but I also accept flaws and imperfections – like a terrible sense of direction.
Overall, I am getting my foot off the gas pedal more and more when it comes to needs and obligations. I focus more on myself and my needs. Yes, I am reinventing myself! It sounds dramatic and yes, for some women in this phase of life, life turns upside down, work is abandoned and the man leaves; fortunately, it is rarely the other way around.
I feel a new will to act to optimize my life!
For some, however, these are just nuances, little internal points that are re-established. The question of being satisfied with one’s life within itself suddenly becomes very important. It’s also audition time. I would like to keep tried and tested and give space to a new one. Time to make a decision and take stock of your life. For many at this age, the key stages have come to an end – a house has been built, the children have left the forest, the career path is weakening, perhaps married life.
But I feel a new will to act to optimize my life! He wants to deal with new things and break the routine. Unlike the previous ones, I let things come to me instead of wanting to control everything.
Life can only live ahead
I recently read about 9 things a young woman could learn from a mature 50-year-old. Things like making yourself priority number 1, learning to say no, stop worrying about what others think of you, not taking yourself too seriously, etc. I can subscribe to all of these phrases. But – it’s a dilemma. Unfortunately, these great insights can only be gained through experience – not advice! I notice it every time I approach my teenage daughters with nine times wisdom and want to explain their lives to them.
Then they stare at me in bewilderment and think that mom has her five minutes again and really has no idea about the draining life of a teenager – and what’s good and important to us! Another observation: life can only be lived ahead and, above all, lived. There is no shortcut! It’s the only way to get to the middle station, as I do. And I like the view. I try to follow a panoramic route and appreciate the obstacles for what they are: new fields of work and internships. After all, I want to go all the way to the top. Trekking shoes are laced up!
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