At the age of 23 at Hotel Mama: “I can easily bear a little scolding from my mother”

Felix, 23, really likes the Mama Hotel. He doesn’t even think about “worsening” as he puts it. A new report from ZDF visited three Ü-20 “nest stools” and concluded: The reasons for not getting “feathered” can be very different.

If instead of self-heated canned dumplings, we only have permanent Kitchen results or Dad’s good advice manage to slow down the spirit of discovery, it seems clear: the “native stool” cannot decide to take off here. The numbers are astounding: in 2020, 28 percent of 25-year-olds were still living in their parents’ household – and the Federal Statistical Office knows the trend is rising!

But delayed movement can also be motivated by reasons other than lack of string or comfort. Filmmaker Anne Kauth accompanied three adults with her camera who still live with their parents. Your informative “Nesthocker” report was seen on Tuesday night in the “37 °” series on ZDF.

It failed due to culture shock in Berlin

The reasons why the three so-called ‘nest stools’ won’t say goodbye to their children’s room are very different. For example, 29-year-old Ve has already left home but lost because of the culture shock of rural life compared to Berlin: “Noise, all the trams, everything is so loud.” Now she lives back in her parents’ house, which is now dilapidated, and dreams of an attic develop to later live in it with her partner.

Even constant quarrels with her mother and father, who not only long for a little community but also for financial support, are not able to motivate Ve to try her own place to live again. She is among 6 percent of women her age who have yet to move out, compared with 13 percent of young men of the same age.

Many more “natives” live in rural areas

He is different from Ve’s father of two, Stefan, who has been experiencing drug addiction for years and feels heavily condescending by his parents. The 35-year-old longs for independence and is looking for a job, but does not dare to move out yet. The constant distrust of his father, who senses signs of a return to drug addiction everywhere, is particularly difficult for him.

Feliks, on the other hand, responds to the phrase “professional son” and has no desire to give up the comfort of “Hotel Mama”: “I would be stupid to move out. I wouldn’t have a place there. Plus, it would be expensive, and I can easily take a bit of my mother’s scolding, ”she says.

He prefers to be with his extended family on a local farm in Franconia and helps with the work as much as he cannot avoid it. And only if he wasn’t partying the night before. Felix is ​​not alone in this: there are far more squatters in the countryside than in the cities. Felix’s friend Mona from the neighboring village, who is over 20 years old, still lives with her parents.

“If I moved out, I’d get worse”

Felix’s parents would prefer to see Filius flying – actually! “But you don’t want to throw anyone away,” explains Ramona’s mom in front of the filmmaker Anne Kauth’s camera. That is why he “often” supplies the children with refrigerators who live in a converted barn, and sets aside a plan to rent rooms to holiday guests. “Maybe in ten years it will be possible,” she laughs, resigned.

“I get along well with my family. You also have your freedoms. Why would I give it away? ” Felix explains his unwillingness to change his life situation. “Of course it would be fun to move elsewhere and build something new and stuff, but… pfff. It’s a little hard for me to move it. ” As a precision mechanic, he prefers to commute to the city for half an hour every day rather than live there. “If I had to move out, I think it would have been worse for me.” Also financially, he emphasizes.

Nothing decisive has changed in this law as well, as the 300-400 euro housing allowances have been discussed recently. After all, he uses water and electricity, but Felix would find more to be an exaggeration: “I’ll mow the lawn in return, so you can get a lower price for it.”

“Nesthocker” – desperately wanted

In a letter accompanying her film, Anne Kauth recounts how difficult it was to find the right characters. “Everyone has their own story of being cut off from their family home, moving out, their first single life,” writes the author. “But when I was looking for people for this movie to tell me why they still live in the house in their twenties, it turned out: damn hard to find someone who admits that they still live in the house voluntarily.”

More difficult was that the so-called “nest stools” were not organized and therefore difficult to find. “But after months of placing the ads, the first feedback was there and the first conversations began.” Anne Kauth: “Every time I am surprised and enthusiastic about how quickly people talk very intimately about their very personal situation and situation.”